Dealing with a pregnant wife can be a hassle. This will be when you must have an extreme level of patience and handle your wife with love.
Imagine you are in the situation below:
Your wife said, “Babe, the baby wants cold watermelon!”
“No, no, I don’t want that anymore. I want fried chicken with mustard and some ice cream on the side. No, I want cucumbers.”
”Babe, its 2:03am. Where do you want me to get those from?” You answered tiredly
“I don’t know. It’s not me, and it’s the baby! Do you even care about me?”
This is probably you. Do you relate to the above, or are you experiencing something similar? Stick with me.
The Pregnancy Thrill
You were thrilled when your wife showed you the test results, which showed she was two weeks pregnant. You were ready for the ride of nine months.
You thought it would be blissful, but alas, it was not. Your wife first had bouts of morning sickness, then she had a lot of sickness, and now, she’s different from the woman you married.
She’s always driving you crazy with her constant and impossible demands, and you can’t stand them.
Well, the first thing you need to do is to understand how pregnancy works and its effect on your wife.
During pregnancy, your wife experiences a lot of hormonal changes that could entirely alter her physical and mental health.
You may notice that she’s more irritable or emotional, and the smell of your cologne that she loved is suddenly so irritating to her.
You may also notice that she’s gained weight and is eating foods she wouldn’t touch or food you consider atrocities. None of these are her fault.
They’re all due to her body changing and adapting to the new little human life she’s growing inside of her.
The sooner you understand this, the easier it will be for you to navigate this pregnancy journey. Don’t ever mention that she’s fat, even if she asks.
Always reaffirm her beauty!
Be supportive
I know she’s been driving you crazy, and you want to run away from her to have some peace.
Still, you have to understand that she’s going through some drastic changes in her body that might be entirely strange to her, especially if it’s her first pregnancy.
She probably doesn’t want to treat you that way, but she can’t help it that her emotions are all over the place.
Just brave it. It’ll soon be over. Show support in every way possible. From helping with chores to driving her down to the doctor’s appointment, to just being there to listen to her rant. Support her through all phases of the pregnancy.
Be patient
Don’t be quick to blow up or react to any of her mishaps. Does her crying irritate you? Be patient with her. Remember, her hormones are all over the place, and she most likely can’t control it.
Are her demands becoming too much? Be patient with her.
She has a lot to say all the time. Be patient and listen to her.
She only sleeps all the time and lags, so she needs to catch up on her house duties. Be patient with her.
It’s almost over, and she remembers she’s feeling shitty as well, and you are also a contributing factor to why she feels this way.
Seek counsel
Maybe you’ve been patient and supportive, and you feel like you’re reaching your breaking point because she’s becoming more and more unbearable.
At this point, it would be great to seek counsel from close friends and family or even a therapist.
You need a safe space to express your emotions; you need someone to talk to, to take the load off your chest. Counseling can provide that safe space you need.
It can also give you more tips on navigating this pregnancy and perfect terms with your wife.
Communicate
The place of communication shouldn’t be ignored in a relationship, even during pregnancy.
Find a suitable place and time that would be comfortable for both of you and won’t trigger her senses and discuss.
Ensure she’s highly comfortable with her favorite plushie and a hot mug of cocoa.
Let her know how you feel and what the effect of the pregnancy is, which is also weighing on you.
Explain to her how on edge you feel and relay all your fears and concerns to her.
Remember again, her hormones are all over the place, so you have to do this gently so she won’t take it the wrong way.
Try to be gentle and show her you love her, even during pregnancy.
Assure her of your love for her; you still love her even though she’s gained a little more weight; yes, you’ll always be by her side no matter what. But also let her know the toll it’s taking on you.
Couples’ therapy
If nothing changes after communicating and discussing with her, then book an appointment with a couples’ therapist.
They’ll give an outside perspective and hopefully bring your wife a clear understanding of your feelings.
Also, talking to a professional would provide an outside perspective to help allay your fears.
Show her you love her.
Is she suddenly crying because she mistakenly killed a bug that might have been pregnant? Hug her and tell her you’re sorry that happened.
Is she yelling because you forgot to throw out the trash because you’ve been busy?
Apologize, hug her, and kiss her while reminding her that you love her.
Do all the little things that prove your love for her at random times, like randomly buying her flowers, massaging her swollen feet, or even a belly rub at 2:03 am.
The more you show her that you love her, the less crazy she will seem to you, and soon, you’ll discover that she doesn’t irritate you as much as you thought she did before.
Eventually, the baby would be born, and one look at the little wonder you both created would wipe off all the stress you felt throughout the pregnancy.