Are you in a situation where your girlfriend believes you only love her for her body?
You are probably stuck on what to do to show her that you’re not with her only for her body.
Reasons Your Girlfriend Thinks This Way
You may be wondering, “what gave her the impression that I’m only interested in her body?”
It could be that she was previously in a toxic relationship where her former partner made sure to ring it in her head that she wasn’t worth anything, and the only worth she has is her body (which obviously isn’t true).
Or she grew up with toxic parents or guardians that rang it in her ears that she’s ugly and no one would love her, and when she finally found someone that genuinely loves her, she’s sabotaging the relationship because she truly believes that she’s undeserving of love.
Or maybe it could be that everyone who has loved were not sincere and only wanted a piece of her, and after getting that, they went off.
Whatever the reason is, it isn’t so in your case, and you reading this proves that you really love her.
So, what do you do? Stick through.
7 Things to Do If Your Girlfriend Thinks You Only Want Her for Her Body
Keep it simple. These are the things you should do!
- Talk to her
Sit her down, talk to her and explain how much you love her, and that you’re not in the relationship only for her body.
And I’m believing you love her indeed for you to be here reading this!
List out all the reasons you love her, apart from her body. List out all her redeeming qualities while at that, and help her see from your perspective.
Ensure to speak from the depth of your heart. She will be able to see you are not just saying things to convince her but that the love you have for her means so much to you.
Do not yell. No matter how pigheaded she may seem, refusing to believe you. Don’t yell at her. She’s in a very fragile mental state and you yelling will only further prove her point that you don’t consider her feelings to be worthwhile.
You could take her on a park date, a hiking date, or even a dinner date, whatever she likes, just to set the mood to have this heart to heart discussion.
I trust you will do well at this!
- Do things she likes to do
This seems quite simple. It might be baking, working out , jogging or taking strolls. Do things she enjoys doing with her. Spend a lot of quality time with her.
If she likes reading, you could check out some book recommendations that you think would interest her, buy her some books or even get some from the local library.
If she enjoys baking, take out some time, help her bake some cookies, try out some new recipes you saw on the internet. Go out to the park and enjoy the cool breeze if that’s what she enjoys.
And if your girlfriend is like mine who loves personalized gifts (which I think almost everyone of them does), you can check out my curated gifts that affirms your love for her.
Just do stuff you know she enjoys with her to show that you value her for her. Not just for her body.
Show her you deeply care for her. Besides, action really does speak louder than words.
- Avoid s3x for the meanwhile
If you’re already s3xually active with her, stop it for the mean time. It won’t do you any good if you can’t control your urges, it’ll just further solidify her perception of you that you’re only interested in her body.
Starve yourself of the s3x, show her that you’re not in it for that — that you really love her. Do things that can build emotional connection between you two. Cuddle her, and watch movies with her.
- Ask her opinions on things
Whether it’s the clothes you should wear to work or the color of shorts you should wear on your men’s day out, ask her opinion on things, whether it seems relevant or not.
Show her you cherish her opinions on things whether big or small, that you love her thought process, and that her opinions matter.
- Compliment her
Tell her the things you like about her. Whether it’s her beautiful smile or wonderful intellect or the way she’s so kind to you and other people.
Also, let her hear you tell her good qualities to other people, which will further solidify the point you’ve been trying to get across her. Don’t embarrass her in public.
Note this though; do not be obnoxious while doing this. Don’t overdo it too.
- Show her affection when she least expects
As someone who has been in a relationship for about 3 years at the time of writing this blog post, I can tell you that women love surprises — unexpected random show of affection, gifts, etc.
Sneak up behind her when she’s working and give her a kiss, make breakfast for her in bed, buy her tampons, pads and period care packages occasionally.
You can even send her love messages in the morning. Having her wake up to that will be beautiful.
Just show her that you care about her overall wellbeing beyond the superficial things.
Hold her hand when you’re on walks or out in public. Show her that you’re proud of her and that you’re super glad to have her in your life.
- Go to couples’ therapy
You could book an appointment with a couples’ therapist to help you guys deal with the problems you have. Opening up to a third party might be what could start up the healing process she so desperately needs and deserves.
It could also bring to light the reasons she thinks you’re only after her body. Do not become defensive when she brings these up. Be quiet and willing to listen so you’d be able to right your wrongs.
It might take a long while for her to improve and get over this insecurity. You will need to be very patient.
If after all of these there isn’t any improvement, and you are tired of waiting, you might need to leave the relationship.
Do this in the best possible way. Let her know why you want to leave. This probably might even jack her up and make her realize she might be losing a great individual because of her insecurity.